Thursday, May 19, 2011

War and Peace

Mei-mei is 28 weeks today!  Her growth is looking good - she is at the 49th percentile and is about 2 1/2 pounds.  Average.  Normal.  This is such wonderful news!  The joy of this pregnancy is now outweighing the anxiety and I am loving it!

Last week's 27 week post was up for only a few hours before Blogger crashed, taking the post with it.  It was a very happy post about Mei-mei and about more wonderful news I received that day, which was that my suicidal brother was finally getting some help.  That part turned out not to be true and I was too bummed about it to revise the post, so I just left it down.  My bro has started eating again and is no longer in imminent danger, but he remains with our mother who still thinks his dysfunctional state is the result of demon possession.  I don't know how anyone could live in that house and NOT be suicidal.  My parents are separated (another tragic tale!), which is making it damn near impossible for my brother to get real help or be extricated from this mess.

It's terribly stressful and tragic watching the family I grew up in at war and disintegrating.  At the same time, it's such a joy to see my own little family finding peace and even growing after surviving some very dark years!

The Girls
My daughter drew this picture today of herself and me with Mei-mei in my belly


Alex said...

Love the picture your daughter drew - it's adorable! So glad to hear that Mei-mei's at 28 weeks, and doing well!

Glad to hear your bro is eating - this has to be so tough to watch.

Unknown said...

YAY about Mei-Mei!! So glad to hear it and to see that everything is going great. :)

AFM said...

Yay for mei mei!!! So glad to hear all is progressing well.
take care

China Doll said...

Great to hear that Mei-Mei is doing so well! Watching family members not doing well is so hard, especially when there is so much deserved joy in your life.. sometimes I think you just have to shut yourself off from it a bit :) xx

C said...

I found you through ICLW. Congrats on "average and normal." Looking forward to following your journey.


heartincharge said...

Excited about your sweet news. Sorry about the bitter. Take care of yourself through it all. You are strong and Mei-Mei is healthy.

Kristin said...

Love the picture and so very glad to hear Mei-Mei appears to be growing and thriving.


Jana said...

love the picture. so glad things are going well for you.
it is hard to see other family members struggle especially when you cannot do much to help the situation.

Elphaba said...

Congrats on 28 weeks! So happy for you :)

S said...

I'm glad this pregnancy is going well for you. I lost a baby to a cord accident at 32 weeks in 2009. And I'm so sorry to hear about the struggles your brother is going through. I am actually a male adolescent psych nurse so it's something I truly can understand. I hope he gets the help that he needs to become more functional and lead a full life. I look forward to following your pregnancy and blog! ICLW

Casey said...

Here from ICLW.

So sorry to hear of your struggles, but overjoyed to hear of Mei-Mei's progress! I shall be keeping a close eye on your journey.

Best wishes and ICLW hugs,


Suzy said...

I'm so sorry to hear that your brother isnt going to get the proper help. I can't imagine how frustrating it must be for you.

(ps your daughter is an awesome little artist!)

Jeanne said...


I'm so glad that your pregnancy is going well. That artwork is lovely.

I'm sorry your brother isn't getting the help he needs. It must be very frustrating and upsetting. Hopefully, he will find a way to get the help he needs.